Exit, Pursued by a Bear

Husband:

*playfully tugs on my braid*

Husband:

You know what it means when a boy pulls a girl's hair, right?

Me:

That he likes her!

Husband:

No. It means he was raised in a society where children are taught that male aggression and a lack of physical boundaries are equivalent to affection.

stephani-d:

TRIGGER WARNING! 
TRIGGER WARNING FOR SURGERY 
TRIGGER WARNING FOR MENTALLY ILL PEOPLE BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT 
fandomsandfeminism:

findchaos:

whowasntthere:

yohoyohoadisneylifeforme:

smitethepatriarchy:

queerfabulousmermaid:

nynuwe:

geekgirlsmash:

sophiealdred:

thehippieconservatarian:

thinksquad:

A pregnant woman has had her baby forcibly removed by caesarean section by social workers.
Essex social services obtained a High Court order against the woman that allowed her to be forcibly sedated and her child to be taken from her womb. The council said it was acting in the best interests of the woman, an Italian who was in Britain on a work trip, because she had suffered a mental breakdown.

If you are not absolutely terrified and outraged by this you are wrong. The precedent this sets put every person on earth in danger.

oh my god read the article this is FUCKING HORRIFIC. she got back on her bipolar disorder medication and is in recovery but they won’t give her her child back “because of the risk she might relapse”. What you’re fucking saying with that is that mentally ill people shouldn’t even be allowed children even if they’re safe and well *just in case*, that we’re a permanent threat to ourselves and others even when we’re in treatment and recovery and living a stable life. I am FUCKING LIVID

Over a fucking panic attack. I’m fucking serious, all of this over a single panic attack. They took her baby in the most horrific way possible because she had a fucking panic attack.
From the Article:

She suffered a panic attack, which her relations believe was due to her failure to take regular medication for an existing bipolar condition.

It’s worth noting, that it’s very common for people on psychiatric medication to go off of their meds if they become pregnant, because of risk of side effects. 

I bolded the above. I wanted there to be no one to think that she was being irresponsible for not haven taken her meds regularly. She did it for good reason, for the health of her own baby. And she got punished for it.

i fucking cant

So she did what was best for her kid, has ONE SINGLE PANIC ATTACK WHICH IS A THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE WHETHER THEY HAVE A MENTAL ILLNESS OR NOT and decide that they can literally violate her body in a horrific manner and take her kid away. But she’s the dangerous one.

Terribly sad. I hope this gets worked out in her benefit.

I can’t even imagine how terrifyingly awful that situation had to have been. Forcing a woman, against her will, to undergo sedation and then waking up in pain, without the fetus you’ve been carrying for 9 months? That’s beyond the pale. How much do the rights of an unborn fetus circumvent the rights of a full-grown adult? How much do we have to other the mentally ill, treating them (us) as less than human? She was literally treated like a breeding animal, with no cause of concern for her safety, mental health or well-being. Fuck. Fuck.

This is literally the stuff that horror movies are made of.
When K was relating this story to me, I couldn’t believe it until I read the article for myself. Have we really gotten to the point that a woman who, even just from the stress of being pregnant, has a panic attack can legally have her baby ripped out of her body and be thrown into a mental institution? Did we slip back into the 19th century, because I don’t recall any horse-drawn buggies going by outside.
This is why we need mental health reform. This is why we need women’s rights. This is why we need to treat fellow humans like fucking humans, not livestock to be cast aside when they seem a little “off.”
Likewise, fuck.

This is horrific

Added trigger warnings at the top because holy fuck does this post need them. 

I know this is the UK, but this could happen in the US any day I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised (we already have a lovely history of taking babies from their mothers as it is *gag*). And as someone who is already worried about how I will deal with my panic disorder when I’m pregnant (since you can’t take medication for it during pregnancy), this is more horrifying than I could have possibly imagined. I thought the worst that would happen would be coping with my illness for nine months without medicine; it turns out the worst that could happen is having my baby RIPPED FROM MY FUCKING BODY AND TAKEN AWAY FROM ME. Of course, I’m white, straight, married, educated, and financially stable, so I have tons of privilege when it comes to reproductive autonomy, but holy hell am I worried for women who society deems to be “less worthy” to raise children than me.And this is why I am pro-choice. Because when you start undermining a woman’s physical autonomy, and establishing that society should have more of a say in when a woman becomes a mother than she does herself, stuff like this is bound to happen. It’s not a slippery slope argument, it’s a historical fact.

stephani-d:

TRIGGER WARNING! 

TRIGGER WARNING FOR SURGERY 

TRIGGER WARNING FOR MENTALLY ILL PEOPLE BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT 

fandomsandfeminism:

findchaos:

whowasntthere:

yohoyohoadisneylifeforme:

smitethepatriarchy:

queerfabulousmermaid:

nynuwe:

geekgirlsmash:

sophiealdred:

thehippieconservatarian:

thinksquad:

A pregnant woman has had her baby forcibly removed by caesarean section by social workers.

Essex social services obtained a High Court order against the woman that allowed her to be forcibly sedated and her child to be taken from her womb.
The council said it was acting in the best interests of the woman, an Italian who was in Britain on a work trip, because she had suffered a mental breakdown.

If you are not absolutely terrified and outraged by this you are wrong. The precedent this sets put every person on earth in danger.

oh my god read the article this is FUCKING HORRIFIC. she got back on her bipolar disorder medication and is in recovery but they won’t give her her child back “because of the risk she might relapse”. What you’re fucking saying with that is that mentally ill people shouldn’t even be allowed children even if they’re safe and well *just in case*, that we’re a permanent threat to ourselves and others even when we’re in treatment and recovery and living a stable life. I am FUCKING LIVID

Over a fucking panic attack. I’m fucking serious, all of this over a single panic attack. They took her baby in the most horrific way possible because she had a fucking panic attack.

From the Article:

She suffered a panic attack, which her relations believe was due to her failure to take regular medication for an existing bipolar condition.

It’s worth noting, that it’s very common for people on psychiatric medication to go off of their meds if they become pregnant, because of risk of side effects. 

I bolded the above. I wanted there to be no one to think that she was being irresponsible for not haven taken her meds regularly. She did it for good reason, for the health of her own baby. And she got punished for it.

i fucking cant

So she did what was best for her kid, has ONE SINGLE PANIC ATTACK WHICH IS A THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE WHETHER THEY HAVE A MENTAL ILLNESS OR NOT and decide that they can literally violate her body in a horrific manner and take her kid away. But she’s the dangerous one.

Terribly sad. I hope this gets worked out in her benefit.

I can’t even imagine how terrifyingly awful that situation had to have been. Forcing a woman, against her will, to undergo sedation and then waking up in pain, without the fetus you’ve been carrying for 9 months? That’s beyond the pale. How much do the rights of an unborn fetus circumvent the rights of a full-grown adult? How much do we have to other the mentally ill, treating them (us) as less than human? She was literally treated like a breeding animal, with no cause of concern for her safety, mental health or well-being. Fuck. Fuck.

This is literally the stuff that horror movies are made of.

When K was relating this story to me, I couldn’t believe it until I read the article for myself. Have we really gotten to the point that a woman who, even just from the stress of being pregnant, has a panic attack can legally have her baby ripped out of her body and be thrown into a mental institution? Did we slip back into the 19th century, because I don’t recall any horse-drawn buggies going by outside.

This is why we need mental health reform. This is why we need women’s rights. This is why we need to treat fellow humans like fucking humans, not livestock to be cast aside when they seem a little “off.”

Likewise, fuck.

This is horrific

Added trigger warnings at the top because holy fuck does this post need them. 

I know this is the UK, but this could happen in the US any day I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised (we already have a lovely history of taking babies from their mothers as it is *gag*). And as someone who is already worried about how I will deal with my panic disorder when I’m pregnant (since you can’t take medication for it during pregnancy), this is more horrifying than I could have possibly imagined. I thought the worst that would happen would be coping with my illness for nine months without medicine; it turns out the worst that could happen is having my baby RIPPED FROM MY FUCKING BODY AND TAKEN AWAY FROM ME. 

Of course, I’m white, straight, married, educated, and financially stable, so I have tons of privilege when it comes to reproductive autonomy, but holy hell am I worried for women who society deems to be “less worthy” to raise children than me.

And this is why I am pro-choice. Because when you start undermining a woman’s physical autonomy, and establishing that society should have more of a say in when a woman becomes a mother than she does herself, stuff like this is bound to happen. It’s not a slippery slope argument, it’s a historical fact.

(via marywithaquestionmark)

lifeinmyworldx10:

crown-of-weeds:

penroseparticle:

themaidofdishonor:

pax-et-triumphus:

Regardless of whether you watch Scandal or not, everyone needs to watch this and see Lisa Kudrow fucking nail her scene exploiting misogyny and sexism.

I’m pretty sure that just changed my life.

fucking annihilated

Don’t interrupt me when I’m speaking.

This was amazing to see on a show that is currently very popular.

(via stavingdarkness)

Feminism Isn't Working and I Give Up

"This is how it works. We get mad, we fight, we get tired, we get mad, we start again. Rinse, repeat. Feminism isn’t without its flaws, and it doesn’t seem able to speak with one voice or crystallize answers on the darker, stickier aspects of human nature and sexuality. But if I may get Rumsfeldian for a minute, this is the army we have. The fight comes to us whether we seek it or not, whether we want it or not, and whether we are ready or not.

So might as well be ready. Ready, and maybe even happy, to die on the hill.”

Ugh, this speaks to me on so many levels. I’m so tired of caring, but the alternative is unfathomable.

“From boyhood through adulthood, the White American Male must fight his way through a litany of taunts, assumptions and grievances about his very existence. His oppression is unlike anything American women have faced. Unlike women, however, men don’t organize and form groups when they’ve been persecuted. They just bow out of the game.”

—   

-Suzanne Venker, in her hilarious new article about how white men are second-class citizens in America.

I’m having a lot of feminist feelings about Bones right now.

An Open Letter to White Male Comedians

 I want to try and convey to you, broadly, how you are hurting women and hurting your own art form, and how easy it would be to stop. Because right now you’re coming across like a bunch of entitled babies terrified of a few girls in your clubhouse—demanding that women be thick-skinned about their own rapes while you’re too thin-skinned to handle even mild criticism. It’s embarrassing…


If you just don’t care, that’s fine—that’s your choice—but understand this: I know you think you’re being transgressive and edgy and bad-in-the-cool-way when you are careless with the trauma of strangers, but you’re not. You are being conservative. You are a conservative comedian. You are moving your art form backwards, you are a bully (a bully who has likely experienced bullying himself, which is the worst kind), and you are propping up the status quo in the most boring way possible. If that’s what you want, at least have the grace to own it.

Last night’s episode of Spartacus reminded me how much I love this show. I seriously think it’s one of the most feminist programs on TV right now, even though it in no way markets itself as such.

Love it.

Of Church, feminism, and safety

"Safety is a big thing for survivors of all kinds of abuse. It’s a big deal when someone confides their pain in another individual. And when that individual turns around time after time and clings to rules and regulations, idioms and cliches, proverbs and parables, it invalidates the experience and pain of the person who trusted them. It is a deep betrayal of trust. And when the Bible is used as a tool to shame people for their emotions, silence their pain, and brow-beat them back into line, all in the name of God…if that is not taking His name in vain to hurt the least of these, I don’t know what it is.

But you know what?

It’s been outside the church, among “godless” liberals and feminists, that I have been given the tools I need to heal. (I put “godless” in quotes, because I was always taught that liberals and feminists are godless, when in fact I’ve discovered quite the contrary.)

It’s been outside the church, among these liberals and feminists, that I’ve learned that it is okay for me to exist.

It’s been outside the church, among these liberals and feminists, that I’ve been allowed to grieve when I hurt, rage when I’m angry, dance when I’m happy, and experience human emotions fully for the first time in my life.

It’s been outside the church, among these liberals and feminists, that I’ve truly heard for the first time that there is nothing I can think, say, do, or wear that can possibly justify sexual, physical, spiritual, or emotional violence against me.

It’s been outside the church, among these liberals and feminists, that I’ve been told that my voice is important.

It’s been outside the church, among these liberals and feminists, that I’ve been told that my entire worth isn’t located in my vagina or connected to any activity that happens therein.

It’s been outside the church, among these wonderful, strong, brave, compassionate liberals and feminists, that I have found safety. Understanding. Friendship. Love.”

Dangerous Women Creed- I think I need to print this and hang it in my room

Dangerous Women Creed

Dear God, please make us dangerous women.

May we be women who acknowledge our power to change, and grow,

     and be radically alive for God.

May we be healers of wounds and righters of wrongs.

May we weep with those who weep and speak for those who cannot

    speak for themselves.

May we cherish children, embrace the elderly, and empower the poor.

May we pray deeply and teach wisely.

May we be strong and gentle leaders.

May we sing songs of joy and talk down fear.

May we never hesitate to let passion push us, conviction compel us,

     and righteous anger energize us.

May we strike fear into all that is unjust and evil in the world.

May we dismantle abusive systems and silence lies with truth.

May we shine like stars in a darkened generation.

May we overflow with goodness in the name of God and by the power of Jesus.

And in that name and by that power, may we change the world.

Dear God, please make us dangerous women. Amen. -

From Lynne Hybels’ blog.